To my Batch Matatag — Bad days are sometimes the best days

Sunday, September 14th, 2008

(an old entry)

It was October 1998 when I became one with my batch for the first time, I was so reluctant. I didn’t know if I could ever find the sense of belonging I had long to enjoy. But they welcomed me into their lives with arms wide open, and from batch mojacko, we soon became BATCH MATATAG. It has become another circle of life, love, and learning.

I’ve learned a lot from them over the past few years. Here are a few things I think are well worth sharing:

1. Laughter is the fuel of life. I can’t tell you how many times I was going through a hard time with my life, my family or work, and I came to my batch with tanks empty. There were times when I was tired, sad, or pressured at work, and they just made me laugh-knee slapping, tear-producing laughter. From practical jokes to the ironies of life, I just love how we can take what we do seriously, but not take ourselves so seriously. There were so many times I went home saying “I needed that!”

2. I long to belong. I love being “in.” I love being “a part.” I love being “included.” My batch has consistently reminded me that this isn’t only the needy, group-happy christin, but a God-given desire, a divine calling, a pathway to a healthy, balanced and, yes, even a Purpose Driven Life.

3. Pain is universal. It’s just not always visible. When I’ve seen my batch share their pain (as in hurts, struggles, temptations, etc.), it makes me want to share on a whole other level. We have had love issues, death, health problems, chaos, emotional brokenness, job transitions, leaving home, heart scares, financial fears, etc. And when we go below the water level of our hearts, there has been gold there for me. Why? Because it makes me feel I’m not alone.

4. I am a beginner when it comes to listening. I am realizing anew how much I talk-many times out of insecurity-wanting to fill the space with words. My batch has helped me see this and is showing me how I can learn and grow as I simply listen more. The best part about this reminder is that I can hear more of what God is saying through them.

5. Sometimes the best curriculum is the curriculum of life. I used to feel guilty about not having a night out with them and just talk about anything under the sun. But I have discovered again that as the Word became flesh in Christ, so it does in them-through their hands, feet, hearts and hope poured out for Christ to me.

6. Confession is the primary pathway to community. A writer once said in his classic book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, “If I tell you who I am and you don’t like me, I will be alone!” But my batch has not done this to me. Even when I used to call them late at night, or I’m hurting beyond reason, they embraced me, making it safer to show up more and more. What a gift! The Bible verse, “Confess your sins to one another and you will be healed,” became real to us.

7. Everyone has something to teach me. The teenage goodbyes of me serves as comfort for them and others today. Sickness in one serves to support sickness in another. Intimacy of one grew intimacy in another. Sometimes one person in the group has made me mad, another sad, and both have grown to be gifts to me.

8. Bad days are sometimes the best days. This truth has taken me from days of not wanting to communicate with them to anticipating what I will learn when I do. I am most proud of each single soul in my batch, who takes more risks than I ever do. I just watch my batch love and care on each other and breathe life like few things I have ever seen. I’ve come to realize that it’s not a question of whether they care but will I let them care. I’ve learned that if I am going to try and live my life alone I can, but I don’t have to, and if I do it’s my fault. I make myself alone by not making myself known.

9. It feels cruel for God to allow pain in my life for someone else’s comfort until I am comforted by someone else’s pain. Honestly, I’m tired of the pain that results from sin circumstances I cannot control. However, the profound lesson in all of this is when I said to my batch, “This feels crazy and nothing short of insane,” they didn’t try to fix me. They didn’t say I know your pain (because no one fully can). But several of them had a look of understanding. They didn’t and needn’t say more. But oh how big, how deep that was to me.

10. Yes I am crazy. Yes I am overly passionate. But there is something sacred in the circle, and it’s my place, my path and my purpose in life! They have helped authenticate my calling in life. You know how sometimes you wonder? Well, I don’t wonder anymore. In fact, I dream more and more. I am honored and privileged by what He has given through my batch and what I sense He will give in the future. I look forward to what’s in store for 2006.

C/Capt. Cristina Coronel signing off.